I moved to the small town in which I am currently living and working right out of graduate school over 25 years ago. Imagine going from a Big 10 university town to hearing a rooster crow somewhere outside your property in the morning. I could sometimes hear the clip-clop of a horse’s hooves on the street out front. How you regard that says a lot about attitude and expectations, and that brings me to the point of this post.

During Christmas at our home a few years ago, I was speaking with my son-in-law, Michael Greenholt. He is an animator who has worked for Disney/Toon Studios and is recently employed by Warner Brothers. I told him that I did not care for the general quality of anime, and he informed me that I needed to watch features directed by Hayao Miyazaki. As proof, he showed me My Neighbor Totoro.

My attitude toward where I was living was, to say the least, under-appreciative. During this charming animation, I was struck by its sense of peace, pastoral simplicity, community, and appreciation of the simple features of relationships and rural life. I remember thinking, “I want that,” and then realizing, “Wait – I already have that.” It was all around me, and I had been disregarding it.
The story is a wonderful application of mythology to the mundane aspects of human life. Some benevolent spirits of various sizes help two sisters whose mother is ill and whose father is a university professor. There were images of the father grading papers in the quiet of their rural home, and I identified with what I was seeing. That might be the sequence which really got the wheels turning in my mind.
I have said before that good fantasy can give us a perspective from which to consider reality. The subject of this week’s offering is but one good example of how this has worked for me. Happily, I can say that I am much better acclimated to my surroundings as I write this some years later. Just this last Christmas, we were at Mike and my daughter’s house out in Los Angeles, and the family watched this movie again. In another conversation during that visit, my daughter zeroed in on a statement I made about the influence of expectations on our enjoyment. If we are expecting something else, we are less likely to enjoy what is in front of us, regardless of its quality. If we can expand our thinking, we can enjoy a wider variety of things in this life.
Additionally, I can say that slowing down and taking more time to enjoy less has the effect of expanding our sense of time. I believe that we live more fully and more deeply when we can achieve this relaxed state of mind. If I were to make a suggestion, it would be to turn down the cultural noise, slow down, and get about the business of real living.
Very, very good and appropriate… Very wisely stated and something I definitely needed to read/hear this day. Thank you, Robert!
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I’m very glad you found it beneficial. I obviously did.
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Great story and post. I personally think that the pace and environment of city life can often blind us to the simple and pure.
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Believe me, it can happen in a rural setting as well. I know better, but I still find myself resisting the temptation to ratchet up. I think Americans in general need to learn to live more in the moment.
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I loved this, Robert. My family adores Miyazaki films. “My Neighbor Totoro” even made my teenage son laugh.
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I don’t think you can go wrong with Miyazaki. I basically never get tired of watching his work. Take care.
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Thanks, Robert! You do the same.
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Excellent post! As always, I appreciate the advice.
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Thank you so much for responding. As I indicated in this week’s post, that advice is something I learned to follow, and I wish I had done so much sooner. It’s made quite a difference.
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This is probably one of the BEST posts you’ve done, and you’re a really good writer!
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Thank you. I did a smart thing by marrying you…
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Reblogged this on INSPIRATION with an ATTITUDE and commented:
Our expectations make a huge difference in what we see. Check this out (even if you’re not an anime fan!!) ~~dawnlizjones
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We discovered Miyazaki when our daughters were young. They grew up with Totoro t-shirts, shoulder bags, pillows… Studio Ghibli has done some other Miyazaki-like films since his retirement. “When Marnie Was There” has his pastoral touch and is a sweet-spirited semi-ghost story.
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Your daughters and now my first granddaughter. The trailer for that last one you mentioned looked interesting, and I have yet to see it. Have you seen Whisper of the Heart or From Up on Poppy Hill? I really like those two.
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Hi Robert
I can so understand how you feel. I was raised mostly in the city, and have lived in the city most of my life. Now, to say I am in the sticks would not actually capture the moment!
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It takes some getting used to, doesn’t it?
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Yessir it does LOL. Took these folks some getting used to me too LOL. They tend to be far less “in your face.” than me. They are very, very southern genteel around here, if you know what I mean. Some refer to me as “that yankee.” even though I grew up in Arkansas, just in the city
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Good post. Man I want to see where you live…
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It’s outstandingly average, but I have grown to love the peace and quiet as well as the nearness to rural scenery, including fish and wildlife areas. Frustration has given way to contentment…
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I really enjoy good Japanese art.
It reaches me much more than Western art of most varieties.
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I also like some of the more “serious” Japanese and Chinese art. In the area of animation, I find Miyazaki’s work to be particularly moving. It’s good to hear from you again. Take care.
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Great advice! I moved grew up in NYC then lived in Philly for 20 years (a smaller city, but definitely an urban environment). I now live in rural Maryland, and am deeply grateful for the slower pace.
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It took me longer than it should have to appreciate where I am. It’s good to get the noise out of one’s head.
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